When the selfie thing first started, I was not a fan. When I had an awesome outfit or my hair was doing amazing things, I would resist the urge because I thought it would make people think I was self-absorbed if I posted it on Instagram. I would get around that by posting a funny picture (where I happened to look super hot) or a picture with someone else (with my awesome new outfit).

An extreme selfie from Em’s bachelorette party

I even had the urge to give friends a hard time if they posted selfies frequently. But I held back, thinking “Hey, if they don’t care what other people think, more power to them. They do look good!”

Then I read this article, and suddenly it all made sense.

 WOC [women of color] rarely see themselves reflected in media, people over a size 4 are told to hide themselves, transgender persons want to be seen…hell, a lot of people responded to anti-selfie moments by saying, “I do not see myself represented in the media, so I’m making my own!”

I just love this. I am tired of seeing the same person over and over again on TV and in magazines. I want to see normal, real, not airbrushed people. Whenever I see the rare pin or Facebook picture of a plus-size model I am starving for more. I want more diversity! And no one is giving it to us in the media.


So let’s take the reigns. We can now with social media. When I was in high school I constantly had magazines to flip through when I was relaxing. Now I scroll through Facebook or Pinterest or Instagram every day. I would much rather see my friends, or other bloggers I admire, or anyone else really other than the same white, thin, hardly real woman. I say let’s embrace the selfie to surround ourselves with images of real people we care about.


There is also the benefit of having photos of yourself at this time in your life. The great thing about smart phones is you are able to take pictures on the fly without much thought. Documenting the mundane is so rewarding later on. Just like my journals, having tons of photos of a certain time in your life is so fun to look back on. And what’s better to see than your face? An old friend of mine, and an avid selfie-taker, posted this awesome quote the other day:

(I couldn’t find where this image came from- or who said it- if anyone knows, please let me know so I can link to the source! P.S. Thanks Chelsey! :))


I thought that was a great point, too.

I don’t see anything wrong with documenting your life or showing the world your face. If people have a problem with it, they can unfollow you. Selfie haters are gonna hate.

What do you think? What’s your opinion on the selfie topic? Also, please include your favorite selfie in the comments- I would love to see your beautiful faces!

4 Comments on Selfie Shaming

  1. why not
    April 15, 2014 at 6:53 am (4 years ago)

    I am 10000% pro selfie! I say there’s nothing wrong with taking a picture of yourself on a day that you feel amazing because WHY NOT!

  2. Mary@TwoHappyLambs
    April 15, 2014 at 8:39 am (4 years ago)

    Love this, and totally agree. Another newborn photographer spoke about why she started and her main driving force was that she was adopted and has no images of her biological mother. She starts to cry every time she talks about it (Ana Brandt, TAOPAN) and says- if someone walked up to me and handed me a book of images of me with my bio mother, that would be EVERYTHING. Exist in pictures, not just for you but for the people that love you.

    • Stephanie
      April 15, 2014 at 8:31 pm (4 years ago)

      Omigod totally. I would totally cry hearing her talk about that. Ugh pictures are the best and I never take enough!!


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