I have two categories in my head:

  1. Things that I can buy for myself often (aka fun things to shop for)
  2. Things that are too fancy/frivolous/boring for me to buy

This means things like sheets, socks, underwear, tupperware and anything practical are never purchased, and self-inflicted guilt trips are triggered when I get my nails done or buy something over $50.

But – as an adult, I have realized a few things.

  1. I can buy whatever the hell I want because it’s my money.
  2. I can treat myself with a shopping spree or night out with friends, but things like a mani/pedi that costs the same amount is just over the top indulgent…? That makes no sense.
  3. Certain things that I never think of/want to buy make me feel so happy after I buy them.

So I need to make a list of these things and a) tell myself they are important and don’t count as frivolous or b) tell myself that even though that’s a boring thing to buy and you would rather spend it on beer, you need grown up basic things, dammit.

So, without further ado:

Things that make me feel like I have my shit together

  • Having enough sheets

I can’t tell you how awesome it is to change my sheets and not be like “UGH I have to use these UGLY sheets now until I have the energy to do laundry!” Why did I think that one pair of sheets that I love and match my bedroom is enough until this point? I need to stop torturing myself.


(Script pillow DIY)

  • Getting my nails done

This used to just not be a big deal for me since I painted my nails at home all the time. But now I just…don’t. Every time I’m at home I think about doing it, but I’m just too lazy 90% of the time. But I love having my nails painted. And there’s just something about that manicured look that I can’t get at home. Plus I feel SO fancy and rich when I go (even though it’s not that expensive). I basically feel like a gossip girl in the upper east side.


(If you’re not lazy, try leopard nails for dummies)

  • Having enough new(ish) underwear

I need to just set a calendar event on my phone or something to just go buy 5 new pairs of underwear every 6 months. That would make my life so much better. I don’t know about you, but I have a mental block when it comes to underwear shopping – it should be fun, but it’s so expensive and I always put it off. But when I have underwear that doesn’t look like I’ve had it since high school, I feel like the SHIT. Especially when they match a bra or two.

(Side note: I also learned that I need to STOP buying underwear with the lace waistband. I know, so comfortable and cute – but it always just comes apart and tears from pulling on it so much….

Maybe this problem would be solved if I just buy new ones more often and stop wearing rags? …I’ll try that and report back.)

  • Pretty iPhone case

I don’t know why, but having a super cute, trendy iPhone case just makes me feel like one of the popular girls. And it’s not a huge investment. I’ve had mine for forever and I still feel like the coolest person ever when I’m ignoring people for Instagram – totally worth paying for one that makes me swoon.


(Photo by Two Happy Lambs Photography)

  •  Phone holder for my car

Anthony got me this AWESOME phone holder thingy for my new car and it is amazing. It’s about as big as a silver dollar (or if you’ve never seen a silver dollar, because why, just guess), and it sticks in your air vent. Then you put a thin magnetic strip in your phone case and it just sticks there. I don’t know if I can explain why this is awesome unless you’re with me in my car or buy one- but there wasn’t a place for my phone to sit so I kept putting it on my lap and it would slide everywhere and it was a mess. Now I just – boop – put it on there and grab it when I leave and it’s in the perfect place. Here is a similar one if you’re interested in figuring out what I’m rambling about.

  • Pretty desk things at work

I spend 40 hours a week at work, so why not get just as excited about decorating that space as I do with my house? I want it to make me happy because working sucks sometimes and I want to feel like the place I spend so much time in reflects my personality. Plus it’s a great way display a bunch of girly stuff that doesn’t have a place in my shared home with the boyfriend.

My mug, mouse pad, fake plant, blingy pen holder, and “hustle” print are my favorites and make me feel like I’m straight out of a RomCom and work at some women’s magazine with Matthew McConaughey Ryan Gosling as my love interest.


Check out this awesome article with more things that will make you feel like you have your shit together.


What’s on your list? Please share so I can become even more of a badass and start buying grown up things. :)





2 Comments on Things that make me feel like I have my shit together

  1. Kelly
    October 16, 2015 at 7:49 am (2 years ago)

    Love this post! There are some things that make me having my shit together like doing all my grocery shopping before the weekend so I have everything I need for the next week. Weird I know but it definitely makes me feel like having my shit together.

    • Stephanie
      October 16, 2015 at 9:43 am (2 years ago)

      Oh man Kelly, that’s not weird – that’s like advance-level adulting. Haha. If only I could get myself to do that! Once Friday hits I can barely get anything productive done. :)


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